Kalae wrote- Call me hard nosed, call me tough, you can even call me mean… but I usually have no problem watching my kids – Leialoha in particular – cry. Haha, that sounds horrible. But really, if she’s crying because she’s in trouble… that usually means she’s sorry for what she did, it means she’s learning her lesson. If she’s crying because she’s not getting what she wants, I’m annoyed but again, she’s learning something, crying won’t get her what she wants. I let her cry.
Little did I know though, that seeing her cry last weekend at a wedding would break my heart. She went up to two little girls on the dance floor hoping to dance with them,
but they ran away. When she finally caught up with them, she put out her little hands waiting for them to grab them, they just looked at her and said something. She walked away with her head down. When she saw me sitting there, she looked up and ran to me crying “they won’t let me dance with them”.
Oh my gosh, I still want to cry thinking about it. I was so sad her feelings were hurt. So sad she was sad. So sad I couldn’t do anything to make it better. The kid makes friends wherever she goes. She was over the whole thing and on the dance floor with another kid in a matter of minutes.
But geez, not me. She’s only three, the incident was minor. I can only imagine how hard it might be when she goes to school, when she’s a teenager. It will be hard on her, but obviously after this I see it will be hard on me too! So weird. I just hate the idea of my kids having hurt feelings. I hate the idea of them being upset over something I can’t control or make better.
Nobody warned me about this. I’ve heard moms cry when their babies get shots, when they have to cry it out in their crib for the first time, when they drop their children off at daycare or when they head off to kindergarden for the first time. No one told me, I’d cry the first time I saw my baby’s feelings hurt. So weird.
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