Cooking is an Experience Part 2

So I tried to BBQ again, now that I have been in my place for a week(at the time I BBQed). I put some brickets down and then some newspaper and then some more brickets, drenched it with some lighter fluid and lit the match. The pile went up in flame and smoke and burned all the lighter fluid away and then it went out. So much for having a fire. I wasn't ready to give up yet, so I tried again, just added some lighter fluid this time and lit the match. It went up in flames and smoke again, but still nothing after the fluid was gone. I though third time was the charm and put some more lighter fluid on and then lit it. It went up and about 20 minutes later, I had some grey brickets...I was so happy I cooked up my salmon burger and ate it with my perfectly brown and now cold tator tots. I have been told timing is everything, so far I am still experiencing.
The thing that blows my mind though is that I used to be really good at this cooking thing and I am really sad that I am airing my dirty laundry out like this, but here it is. Like it, love it...do whatever with it.